Breaking Up

Most adults have experienced at least one breakup in a relationship. It is never an easy thing to do. There are however ways to ease the pain that often comes with it.

Many times, a breakup is the result of an argument or confrontation that escalates into the unraveling of a relationship. In this case, there is not preplanning that could have prevented such a tense and abrupt ending. People tend to say things in anger and it is difficult to remove the negative memories associated with the confrontation.

Sometimes, however one realizes that the person they area seeing is not their "dream person". They might feel comfortable in the relationship but realize that it is not going anywhere. Meanwhile, their partner is very content with the situation and is clueless about their mate's dissatisfaction.

All of a sudden, there is an emotional distance. The time spent together is shortened. Then, the phone stops ringing.

Some people will say that nothing is wrong. That they are just busy. Another common excuse is that they are confused and don't know what they want. This might be true in a minute amount of cases. Normally, it is not the situation.

Most of the time, people don't want to be hurtful and feel avoidance of talking about the breakup will prevent this. Thus they just fade away.

The worst action to take regarding a breakup is denial or misleading a partner. Though it may be true that a small percentage of people have to be dealt with very delicately, most want to know the truth. Giving someone a shred of hope when there is none is the cruelest course of action.

Sitting down and being honest and direct will result in less hurt and misunderstanding later. It is better to handle a breakup face to face.

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